Students Of Success

If you are single and you want men to desire your company more
and truly cherish you, then here are eleven dating rules you
cannot afford to break:

1.Never go to bed with a man on the first date – As much as you
would like to ravish the hunk you have a crush on, do not let
him feel that you are cheap and easy by going to bed with him on
your first date. It does not matter that he is promising that he
will respect you in the morning, or that the way he feels about
you will never change. If you do it, you run the risk of
reducing your value to him. Men are more attracted to women they
spend time to get to know, than they are to those they quickly
jump into the sack with.

2.Never call him first within the first week of your first date
– If your date asks for your phone number and does not call you
within the first week, do not call him. If a man is interested
in you, he will call you during the first week of taking you out
on a date. When you call him during that first week before he
calls you, you give him that impression that you are overly
anxious. The last thing you want is for this new person to feel
that you are a little desperate or forward.

3.Never use obscenities - If you curse like a sailor, it will
turn off your date, if you let that part of your personality out
on your first date. It is a turnoff for most men. It certainly
could ruin the chance of someone getting to know how nice you
really are on the inside.

4.Never engage in a conversation about marriage on your first
date – No matter how much of a good time you are having with
your date, do not bring up the topic of marriage, unless your
date asks about how you feel about the subject. When a woman
brings it up on a date, it creates the impression that you are
on a hunt for a husband. Nothing kills a date like a woman who
comes across as obviously interviewing men for marriage – trying
to find out if they are ready to make that serious commitment.
There is a right time for serious conversations – your first
date is not the time. Get to know your date first.

5.Never flirt with other men while you are on a date – The
cardinal sin of any first date is to flirt with other men in the
presence of your date. Do not do it. If you are trying to get
your date to see that you can attract other men, flirting with
other men in front of him is not the way to do it. It is
disrespectful and conveys that you are shallow and
untrustworthy. Your date will feel that if you have the gall to
flirt now, when you are supposed to be on your best behavior,
what will happen when you get hitched up? Most men wouldn’t want
to find out.

6.Never bring up your ex-boyfriend unless he asks you – Let your
past remain in the past, unless your date wants to find out why
you broke up with your ex-boyfriend. Never compare your ex with
your date, nor refer to something someone else did as something
that your ex would do. It simply shows that you have not gotten
over him.

7.Do not ask your date how much money he makes – This is
definitely a no-no. It shows that you could be a gold-digger,
and you do not want that label. Once a man sees that you measure
the value of a man by the size of his wallet, you can bet that
your date will be turned off.

8.Do not let out the skeletons in your closet - Don’t let it be
known that you were a drug head or prostitute at one time. Your
ugly past, even though you are a new person now, can prevent
your date from getting to know who you have become after going
through a tough past. Leave the horror stories for when he gets
to know you and can easily understand and accept all of you.

9.Don’t go out of your way to be funny, just be yourself – Don’t
start clowning around; pretending to be someone you are not.
Don’t turn your date into a night of cracking jokes or of
proving to your date that you have a fantastic sense of humor.
Be yourself and you will do just fine.

10.Do not order the most expensive meal on the menu – Ordering
the most expensive thing on the menu at a restaurant shows that
you are a potential gold-digger. It also shows that you are
greedy. Men love women that are conscious of the cost of things.

11.Do not show him you have a voracious appetite - Just because
you are famished does not mean that you should order everything
on the menu – super-sized. Most men are turned off by women with
huge appetites – men see that as not being feminine and
lady-like. Moreover, men feel that if your appetite is this big
when he has not gotten to know you, you may swallow a horse when
you really get comfortable with each other.

To find out more about what it takes to make men fall madly in
love, please visit http://www.smartwomansguide.com.

Has this ever happened to you, out of the blue, for
apparently no reason at all? You suddenly start
experiencing any or all of the following symptoms:
shortness of breath, chest pain or discomfort such
as tightness, lightheaded, dizziness, faint, palpitations,
a pounding heart, sweating, trembling or shaking, a
choking sensation, nausea or stomach cramps,
numbness or a tingling sensation, chills or hot flashes.

Then you experience a fear of losing control or going
crazy and even a fear of dying.

If you suffer from anxiety, then you already know that
you are having an attack. If you are experiencing most
of the symptoms above and do not know what is
happening to you, there’s a good chance that it is an
anxiety/panic attack.

The first thing you should do is to have your doctor
check you out. Do not be afraid to have it checked
if you think it’s anxiety. At one time, people would
feel embarrassed when they found out that it was “all
in their head”. But it’s not all in your head. Anxiety
and panic attacks are real and you’d be surprised
to learn how many people suffer from this condition.
Sadly, many suffer quietly at home, too afraid to
venture beyond their safe place.

I have had anxiety attacks on and off for over 20
years. My doctor told me it was anxiety, but I was
told to simply try to relax.

Over the years, more has been learned about anxiety
and panic attacks, as well new drugs have been
developed to alleviate them.

But the drugs only mask the symptoms and they come
with many unwanted side effects. I was also told that
I would be on the drug for two years, then I would
have to stop taking them and go through withdrawal.

So I stopped taking my prescription after a few days.
I decided that I would have to find a way to stop the
attacks myself.

Here is what has worked for me. First, make the
decision that you are going to take charge and be
anxiety free. Imagine how it would feel to always
feel good, to be able to go anywhere you want to
go, to stand in crowds or in line-ups and be calm
and relaxed just like everyone else. Remember,
thoughts do create and if you keep thinking about
the attacks, they do get worse.

Do deep breathing exercises as often per day as you
can remember. Breathe deeply through your nostrils.
Breathe not only with your chest, but take a deep breath
and expand your stomach. Exhale through your mouth.
This seems to work much better than exhaling through
your nostrils, but you can try it both ways to see which
works best for you.

I have learned that deep breathing is a good practice for
anyone. It helps to increase your oxygen and rid the
body of toxins and increase your energy.

Your doctor will tell you to eliminate coffee, tobacco and
alcohol from your lifestyle. This is good advice, however,
if you feel that it is too much to ask of you at this time. I
have some suggestions to follow so that you can still work
on your goal of being anxiety free without having to give up
so much at once.

You can start out by cutting back on your coffee. Too
much coffee can make you jittery and bring on an attack.
I still have my coffee many times throughout the day, but
I only drink a half cup at a time. So I have cut my intake
in half and it feels like it gives me the same lift as drinking
a full cup.

If you smoke, but feel that you cannot give up the cigarettes
at this time, do the same thing as I did for the coffee. When
you want a cigarette, only smoke half at a time.

I chose to eliminate alcohol altogether. Even if I only
drank a small amount, it was enough to guarantee an attack
the next day. Alcohol does effect people differently, so if
you find that alcohol does not always cause you to have an
attack the next day, still try to reduce the amount you drink.

Exercise can help a lot. You do not have to do strenuous
exercises. I practice Qi Gong. It caught my attention when
I read how it can stop anxiety. The exercises are easy, even
10 minutes a day can work for you. It has for me.

Qi Gong exercises are energy work. When you have an
energy blockage in your body, it will cause dis-ease. By
practicing Qi Gong, you remove the blockage and you
can feel better rather quickly. When you practice Qi
Gong, you not only heal your own body, but you increase
your energy so that you can heal others. I have seen some
amazing healings with Qi Gong. So it was no surprise that
it can cure anxiety, too.

Another suggestion, which is rather interesting, concerns
the stimulation of the “amygdala”, which is a small almond
shaped organ in the brain. You actually have two of them,
one on each side of your brain.

I learned about the amygdala when I stumbled across a
website that told how by stimulating them with your thoughts,
it would increase your awareness, intelligence, etc.

There were times when I was feeling good that I would feel
a sensation on my forehead. It would be a tingling feeling,
or like someone was lightly touching my forehead with their
hand. That is the same sensation that I can produce at any
time now by putting my attention on my forehead.

What is interesting about the amydala is that there is a
method for curing anxiety, panic and phobias that says that
the amygdala is responsible for those conditions and that this
fact has been known for many years and is common knowledge
among scientists the world over.

So there could be something to it, based on my own experience.
I still make it a point to focus my attention on my forehead around
the area of the amydala everyday. You might to give that a try
too.

The thing is, you don’t have to suffer from anxiety and panic
attacks. And you don’t have to settle for addictive prescription
drugs in order to feel better. There is an abundance of help
available to you and it is all natural.

I wish you much success in your healing!

Copyright 2005

Written by Susan Norrad, editor and publisher of
The Universe Of Abundant Life Ezine. Find out
how you can take control and create the life you
want, look and feel great, be happy and successful.
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